Thursday, November 8, 2007

How Sweet it is...


In a society where marriage is down played and bad mouthed a lot I would like to give testimony of a young, happily married woman. I would be lost without my husband, John. One of my greatest joys in life has become to be John's wife. I used to fear losing my own identity with being married and being so absorbed into my husband I would lose who I was. If anything, John has helped me define who I am and who I want to be. Seminary is hard for any couple- especially newlywed couples. Long weeks of work and different schedules can often make me feel like I am single again. John goes to school in the morning when I go to work and then we meet for a quick lunch and he starts his work day when I'm halfway through mine. He works a long day and we have some time together before he studies but never long enough. Our weekends are always great- Saturday night to Sunday night it's the two of us for the whole time! I hate to see those weekends end. It brings me again to a new, full week of what we have been doing for a little over a year now. And I have to remember- why. Why do we go through the separation and my husband spends long evenings studying and we invest our money into books and schooling...because the Lord has called us to the Gospel. No greater calling. This will resonate within me as long as I live and we serve Him.
Lately, I have been struggling consistently with some issues and my husband has been my encourager, the one to talk me straight to the point and turn me to the truth of the Scriptures, and the one to help me start over and get up and face it again. With him, it's easy to put so many fears aside. John is so many things I am not and I benefit greatly from his wisdom and consistency. I am so thankful to the Lord for giving him to me. I could not have chosen anything so good on my own. And after a year of marriage I love him more- I'm so comfortable with him, more trusting towards him, the best of friends with him, and so in love with him I can't help walking away from his desk after he tells me he loves me (with that impish grin, dimples, and his headset still on) with a big, toothy grin- all the way to my car. This is not merely a testament to my husband's good character and the love he shows me, but to the goodness of the Lord and what His love can bring to two mortals marriage. He binds us together to stand together during the difficult times and gives us joy to exhibit to our unsaved co-workers in the midst of overtime and long evenings apart. I have missed him much lately if you can't tell.

5 comments:

Tim & Kristen said...

That is a great post. I would have to agree that John is a great guy. I know he is my brother, but I have seen the same kind of character in him as well. Yeah for husbands who are so wonderful and who are such a joy to be married to. Praise the Lord for the marriages He has blessed us with!!!

Debra said...

I'm commenting! ;o)

Have a wonderful weekend with your wonderful husband!

Robert said...

I guess I'm a slight bit prejudiced, but I think your husband is pretty awesome too! And I also think that the Lord definitely knew just the right wife for John to have! We love you Bethany, and we're so glad you married John.
Love, Mom Varner (John, are you enjoying all the compliments?!)

T.J. and Shannon said...

That was so sweet! Praise the Lord for wonderful, God-fearing husbands. You guys are a cute couple.

Karis said...

I have to give a shout out to my husband as well. I totally understand what you mean about our female society bad-mouthing men in general and specifically negative jokes/comments about husbands. Praising our husbands and not joining in on that talk is a testimony of God's work in our lives.

Wish you guys had more time together but glad you enjoy the time you do have together.